I was the kid wearing all black in high school. The one they called "freak", "weirdo", etc. In middle school, they used to call me "Fat", "Tubby", etc.
This was before the "no bully" movement we have today. Of course, Teachers would try their best to cut down on the name calling, shaming, etc., but it wasn't a big topic back then.
In the last few weeks, there have been over five threats of violence in high schools, middle schools and colleges within a 20 mile radius of my home. There were whispers of bomb threats and active shooters on school campuses. People were fearful of their family members, friends and colleagues.
Before I dive too deep into this rabbit hole, let me say this is NOT a post about my views on gun control. This is NOT a post about my views on organized walk-outs, rally's, etc.
This is about love.
This is about connection.
This is about seeing each other as people and striving to create community.
This is about talking to each other.
Saying hello to the "weird" kid, who just might have something in common with you.
This is about asking "crazy guy" at work, how their day is.
Making a HUMAN connection.
Understanding that despite all of our differences we are still people.
We live in the same town, state, country or even on the same planet!! We work at the same place. We go to same grocery stores. We go to the same school, college, etc. We go to the same hospital, doctor. Something.
Those moments when we could walk by, ignore that person or take a chance to spread some joy, love and connection in the world.
THAT is what this is about.
In the words of MC Yogi:
"It only takes one spark To light up the dark"
If we so choose, we can light up the darkness.
We can create change. We can create connection.
We share love to create a community.
Creating change, one spark at time, is a choice.
What choice are you making?
- Jenn Rose
2018: The year I am done playing small. The year I refuse to hide parts of my personality that I love but keep secret. The year I truly share my authentic self ALL the time.
How about you?
During my recent Wellness Within: Mini Retreat at Zennergy Studios we all chose a feeling or mood we wanted to embrace for the year. I chose "flow" and "ease".
Do you celebrate Valentine's Day? Galentine's Day? Or some other holiday to celebrate the ones you love right around February 14th?
To be honest, I never was much of a Valentine's Day fan. It's just too commercial for me. My husband, Eric, and I do not exchange anything for Valentine's Day. Then, full discloser, we go out on the 15th and buy discounted chocolate!
Any way, I wanted to share a fun date night idea that we enjoy any time of year and you can too! It all starts with two words; Blanket Fort.
That feeling of being accepted, acknowledged and understood.
Isn't it really ALL about connection?
On one hand, it could drive us to the extremes of peer pressure, trying to fit in one way or another. Letting our true self get lost in the community. However, without that connection or community spirit we're left out on our own little island.
It's about finding that balance. Being our own unique creation with the flexibility to be influenced by that human connection. That spark which helps us grow.
I spent a lot of time seeing myself as the outsider. Not ready to accept the chance that 'they' may or may not feel the same as I do. I didn't reach out. I didn't want change... but I wanted to grow.
I spent many years hiding behind others and letting them take the lead. I let others make the decisions, stepping away from the steps I could have taken, or retreating completely out of fear.